Pressing toward the goal:
"Working towards that day when I will finally be all that Christ Jesus saved me for and wants me to be."
Philippians 4:12 (NLT)

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Hurting Again...

There are some things in life that happens to  people, and others expect them to just get over it.  But some things need dealing with before you can move on.  If someone hurts your feelings, that's something you can quickly get-over.  If someone has abused your trust, it may take some time to get-over it.  "Somebody cheated on you, had an affair.  You're upset about it...They say, 'You aughta get over it.' But there are some things that hit you so hard that you can't heal...Does anybody know what it feels like to go through something and you can't get over it?" (Bishop T.D. Jakes,"Woman Thou Art Loosed").   If you've been abused [physically, emotionally or otherwise] in your home, at work, in school or even in your church, that needs to be dealt with before you can move on with your life. 

Some people go through a lot and still stand strong, others end up in a mental institution or spending all their money on therapy bills.  Everyone's threshold is not the same.  I have some of those 'not so easy to get-over' issues in my life.  I am still standing but I get weak sometimes and desperately need my fellow believers' prayers and encouragement.

I have so much hurt and pain to deal with that sometimes I just want to get away and hibernate.  I so want the opportunity to have some time to deal with these issues and allow God to work on me [in those areas], yet it seems like one day rolls into the next, one activity after the other, and soon a year or two has passed and still the opportunity doesn't seem to come my way.  Do you ever get that feeling?

As a single person, getting away may seem quite easy but when you have a family to think about, how do you get away?  My issues involve other people, like my parents. And if they aren't willing or ready to deal with these issues, how can I move on? 

I look in the mirror and my reflection does not seem to be in tune with my heart.  I cry for help but no one seems to hear or understand me.  When I share my innermost thoughts I'll get responses like: 'You're an adult now, move on, you don't need your dad or your mum--you have your own family now, let your husband comfort you.'  But I have unresolved issues....!

You see, these are some of the reasons we have so many divorces.  For example: parents neglect their children and those children grow up without the love of their parents and there is that void.  It needs to be filled--they will always have that longingness...

A wife or husband cannot fill that void, God designed mothers and fathers for that purpose.  A partner's love is not the same as a mother's love or a father's love.  And when individuals enter into marriage expecting their partners to fill that gap, it causes chaos in the marriage and chances are history will repeat itself.

See the articles on Child vs Parent for a deeper insight and watch this space for more of my thoughts.

God bless you and please remember me in your prayers, for I seek to be healed from past hurt and pain.  My bible tells me that I am more than a conqueror.  I BELIEVE GOD has already delivered me and I am just going through the cleansing process at present.

Your Sister in Christ
Janice Ramkissoon
23rd April 2009

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